2019 Is For Organizing The People In My Life
This morning I was reading the paper while sipping my morning coffee (routine). Not the real paper though, but rather the daily highlighted articles from my favorite sites; Refinery29 & ManRepeller. Scrolling, scrolling, and right there is an article that speaks to me like Ben to Jerry. The title is “Why You Should Marie Kondo Your Friendships.” First up, I get pretty upset that I didn’t think about that title, but secondly that article was send to me from the glossy magazine heaven.
I’ve written about friendships many times before. Friendship Anxiety, asking myself if I’m a good friend, wondering if friendships get harder the older we get. The answer is, that yes, I am a good friend. But my self-confidence is like calm women in a Manolo Blahnik sale; non existent. Over the time, I’ve had several people in my life, who did not spark joy in my life. Who brought out my insecure self, made me a no-sayer, made me more upset than happy. Some who could raise my blood pressure to a somewhat unhealthy level, just by seeing a text from them.
2019 is the year for me to go KonMari on my life. Not just on that closet with towels and bedding I just went through this weekend (which btw is shining). It is time to look at everything in my life, and ask myself “Does it/he/she spark joy?” If not, then I need to say “Thank you” and cut it/he/she out of my life. Brutal, but necessary. I mean, I only get older, and who wants to spent a life hanging out with people who makes your palms sweat? Not me, that’s for sure. And although breaking up with friends is probably harder than breaking up with your boyfriend, it’s something that needs to be done. Thank the friend for being in your life, but tell them it no longer works for you. If they have been straight up mean to you, tell them you no longer will tolerate that in your life. And end it. I recently had to do that, and although my heart rate was near death penalty, it was well worth it after. A mountain of anxiety and bad vibes lifted off my shoulders.
So, I encourage you all to do the same. Take this year to get rid of all the people in your life that do not spark joy in you. Let me know in the comments, if you have ever broken up with a girlfriend or maybe need to? Also, if you have no idea who Marie Kondo is (have you been living under a rock?) you can find her Netflix show here and her book here.